Alright, you’ve been chosen as the wingman to end all wingmen – the best man. Congrats! But now what? It’s time to put your skills to the test and help your boy leap into married life.
Fun Fact: In the Middle Ages, it was customary for the best man to stand alongside the groom during the wedding ceremony armed with a sword or other weapon to protect the newlyweds from anyone who might try to object or disrupt the marriage.
Now, being a best man isn’t just about slapping a “GROOM” sash on your buddy and getting blackout drunk at the bachelor party (although that is part of the job). You’re also the ultimate wedding superhero – swooping in to save the day and ensure everything goes off without a hitch.
You and the Maid of Honor are like Batman and Robin but with more lace and fewer gadgets. You’re in this together, and with a little teamwork, you’ll make sure the happy couple has the wedding of their dreams.
Here’s a rundown of your top duties, and we even threw in a free checklist so you can keep cool on the big day.
- Plan the Bachelor Party: Work with the groom and other groomsmen to plan and organize a fun and memorable bachelor party for the groom. This could include activities such as a night out on the town, a weekend getaway, or a sporting event.
- Attend Pre-Wedding Events: Attend any pre-wedding events, such as the engagement party, bridal shower, and rehearsal dinner.
- Help the Groom Get Ready: On the wedding day, assist the groom with getting ready for the ceremony. This includes helping him get dressed, making sure he has everything he needs, and keeping him calm and relaxed.
- Hold onto the Rings: Hold onto the wedding rings during the ceremony and make sure they are safely delivered to the groom when needed.
- Give a Speech: Give a speech at the reception, congratulating the newlyweds and sharing funny stories and memories about the groom.
- Coordinate with the Wedding Planner: Work closely with the wedding planner to make sure everything runs smoothly and according to schedule.
- Help Guests as Needed: Be available to help guests with anything they need, such as giving directions, answering questions, or helping them find their seats.
- Ensure the Groom’s Safety: Make sure the groom stays safe throughout the night and doesn’t overindulge in alcohol.
- Make Sure the Groom Gets to Bed: Make sure the groom gets back to his hotel room or other accommodations safely and in a timely manner.
- Pack Up the Gifts: Help pack up any gifts or wedding decor at the end of the night and make sure they are safely transported to the designated location.
Printable Best Man Checklist
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Remember, this is just an example checklist and the duties may vary depending on the couple’s specific preferences and wedding plans.
Tips & Notes
- Communication is key! Stay in touch with the groom and make sure you’re on the same page about expectations and responsibilities.
- Don’t forget about the wedding gift! Coordinate with the groom and other groomsmen to come up with a thoughtful gift for the couple.
- Be a problem-solver. If anything goes wrong during the wedding planning process or on the big day, be prepared to step in and help find a solution.
- Take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, exercise, and eat healthy foods leading up to the big day.
- Above all, remember that your role as the best man is to support the groom and help make his wedding day unforgettable. Enjoy the journey and have fun!
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