5 Tips for Writing Your Wedding Vows

You’ve been making promises to your partner on a daily basis, like that you would be taking a vacation together, buying that jewelry for your anniversary, or calling before you hit the bed. Now that you’re getting married, you are about to deliver the greatest promise to your partner. A wedding vow expresses an act of devotion, a promise that ought to take effect forever. That makes it, indeed, a significant part of your wedding ceremony. Writing wedding vows can be daunting, and it is surprising that, according to a 2019 survey, 44% of couples write their own vows. You might want to consider that your wedding vow, for it to be truly remarkable, is something that you can’t ask other people to do for you. In this blog post, we will provide you with five tips to help you write your wedding vows.

1. Reflect on Your Relationship

Before you start writing your vows, take some time to reflect on your relationship.

What can you reflect on?

What part of your journey is worth mentioning in the vow?
The most wonderful thing your partner brought to your life
That thing that’s been missing in your partner’s life and that which you promise to give forever
That thing that’s been missing in your life that your partner never failed to provide

Upon reflecting on some of these, you may arrive at statements like these:

The moment we made up after that first major fight way back in 2010, that’s when I knew that we’d always figure it out as long as were together.

I love you and every simple thing that you do for me. I’ve always thought that being lonely is normal and hence needs to be welcomed into one’s life. When you came, you brought me to an unexplainable bliss I never thought could exist.

2. Keep it Personal

Sure, you’ll find some format online that you can follow in making your vows. There’s nothing wrong with that, but make sure that your vow doesn’t lose the sincerity that it should have.

What does a sincere vow contain?

Something that would make your partner giggle, like an inside joke only the two of you know
Your plans as a married couple say that you would visit 10 countries per year.
A statement referencing a song lyric that means a lot to your relationship
Calling your partner by an endearing name or cute nickname that you have given

I promise to hug you every night while we sleep, listening to your snoring like it’s my all-time favorite sound.

My love, the past 10 years have been a hell of a ride, but I would not have it any other way. You are my Yellow.

3. Be Honest and Vulnerable

Wedding vows are a chance to be vulnerable and honest with your partner. Don’t be afraid to express your fears, hopes, and dreams for your future together. Your partner needs the strongest reassurance during your wedding day and there is nothing more perfect way to give it by saying it in your vows.

We both know how life could become harsh; we’ve experienced it together. Now that we will become one, I promise to never lose my grip on your hands. I’ll believe in you even if you’re losing sight of the end of the tunnel.

I waited so long for this special day that we would become one. Thank you for fulfilling my dreams. You are the most wonderful thing that has happened to me. I can’t wait to live life with you.

You have seen me at my worst. I worry about the simplest things, get insecure without any reason, and want to isolate when life becomes extra hard. But you love me anyway. Thank you for seeing right through me. I promise to take care of you and return the unconditional love you never cease to give me.

4. Practice and Time Yourself

Once you’ve written your vows, practice them out loud and time yourself. This will help you get comfortable with the words and ensure that you don’t run out of time during the ceremony. Aim for a length of around two to three minutes.

A few more tips for practicing your wedding vow:

Do not memorize the word. Remember that it will sound like a speech if it doesn’t come out as naturally as it should.
Practice the right intonation and speed of speaking. For the parts that you would want to emphasize, make sure to pause before and after the statement.
Make sure to have it written on a clean sheet. The sheet should be doodle-free to prevent you from getting distracted.
Make adjustments when necessary. If you think that your vow is too long, consider omitting filler words and changing phrases to single words that mean the same.

5. Get Feedback from a Trusted Source

Before the big day, share your vows with a trusted source, such as a close friend or family member. This will provide you with feedback on your writing and delivery. It can also be helpful to get a second opinion on the length and tone of your vows.

Writing your own wedding vows may seem intimidating, but remember to take your time, be true to yourself, and enjoy the process. Do not procrastinate! You may include this task in your wedding planning timeline to ensure that you’re ready to deliver it with confidence and sincerity on your big day.

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Reference Links

https://www.brides.com/story/guide-to-writing-your-own-wedding-vows

https://www.theknot.com/content/tips-for-writing-your-own-wedding-vows

https://wanderingweddings.com/how-to-write-wedding-vows-guide/